Helen Palmer (nice_cup_of_tea) wrote,
Helen Palmer

On being an introvert and being proud of it!

I just stumbled across a new blog called Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking thanks to Gretchen Rubin from the Happiness Project.

Today's post is called When does socializing make you happier and it started me thinking and reflecting.

The post struck an an introverted chord with me. I was the typical child bookworm, who would always choose reading over any other activity, inc. playing with others. It took me a long time to realise that this was okay, and that more importantly I was okay. I found a different groups of friends in Upper sixth / my gap year / University who taught me that being quiet was okay, liking studying was okay, being a christian was okay and that I could be happy with who I was. I didn't have to adapt myself to fit in to the extrovert group.

As an adult, I have learnt (and learnt to enjoy) the skills of networking and socialising. Starting a new life in Zurich forced me to actively network, make connections, find a job, find friends and groups to support me. My work in learning and development means that professionally I have always given presentations, delivered trainings, facilitated groups, led big events. At work, I put on my extrovert role and this works. It was hard when I started 15 years ago, but once you get over the fear, you just keep doing it and enjoying it!

I think that I have learnt to know and recognise my limits. I know how much "going out" and "being extroverted" I can take in any given week. I know what it costs me, to meet new people, go to a new event. I know that I am much better in small groups of one or two people. I remind myself that introverts gain energy and strength by time spent alone, and that extroverts gain energy and strength by time spent with others!

So I say, power to us introverts and I am proud to be a little bit geeky! What about you?
Tags: happy, odds and sods, self_reflection

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