Today's post is called When does socializing make you happier and it started me thinking and reflecting.
The post struck an an introverted chord with me. I was the typical child bookworm, who would always choose reading over any other activity, inc. playing with others. It took me a long time to realise that this was okay, and that more importantly I was okay. I found a different groups of friends in Upper sixth / my gap year / University who taught me that being quiet was okay, liking studying was okay, being a christian was okay and that I could be happy with who I was. I didn't have to adapt myself to fit in to the extrovert group.
As an adult, I have learnt (and learnt to enjoy) the skills of networking and socialising. Starting a new life in Zurich forced me to actively network, make connections, find a job, find friends and groups to support me. My work in learning and development means that professionally I have always given presentations, delivered trainings, facilitated groups, led big events. At work, I put on my extrovert role and this works. It was hard when I started 15 years ago, but once you get over the fear, you just keep doing it and enjoying it!
I think that I have learnt to know and recognise my limits. I know how much "going out" and "being extroverted" I can take in any given week. I know what it costs me, to meet new people, go to a new event. I know that I am much better in small groups of one or two people. I remind myself that introverts gain energy and strength by time spent alone, and that extroverts gain energy and strength by time spent with others!
So I say, power to us introverts and I am proud to be a little bit geeky! What about you?