November 16th, 2009


3 months old!

This weekend Markus reached the 3 months milestone. He is now really smiling a lot, occasionally laughs (particularly when he is falling off to sleep) and makes lots of gurgles and vocalisations, which make us laugh. I never understood (although I tried to understand) how parents could talk endlessly about the minutae of their child, but I find myself and Alan doing it constantly (although only in the privacy of our home!) “Look, he’s smiling!” “Look, he’s been sick again!” “Ah, he’s asleep”…. We try and curtail ourselves when out and about in public! He is the best entertainment ever and we really appreciate the miracle that is our baby.

Our little lad is beginning to develop a character now. Loves being tickled under his chin with a muslin. Cries if you put him in a sling, but then falls asleep within minutes. Sneezes a lot. Chews on his fists and hands and is just learning to suck his thumb, will soothe himself by sucking a dummy. Drinks well and has chubby thighs (Alan’s words, not mine). Winding him is no problem - he burps like a champion (he takes after my sister).I love it when my baby rests warm and cuddly on my shoulder.

He sleeps for 7 to 8 hours straight at night, but won’t go to sleep until midnight or later (we think he just likes sitting up with us watching telly). We are now working on the evening routine. It is amazing the changes that he has been through in just 13 weeks and we feel that we are beginning to find our routine with him now. Oh, and he is beginning to develop a bored, frustrated “come and get me/entertain me” cry.

All the previous weeks can be viewed here on flickr. It’s hard for us to see changes in him on a day to day basis, but these photos really show him growing up. It’s a real faff to do each week, but I am glad that I am persevering!

Week 13, 12, 11

Week 10, 9, 8

Week 7

"Little Gerry" meets Sharon

My Aunty Sharon (of thymeoff fame) visited last week and declared herself “smitten” and “besotted” with “Little Gerry” (her name for Markus Gerry)! She cuddled him, talked to him, changed his nappy, I hardly got a look in, except to feed him :-)

We talked a lot about Markus, about her son Michael when he was a baby and of course about our beloved Gerry. We cried and remembered. We walked and talked. And we sent her on her way to Lesotho to do volunteer work for 6 months!

Things I now know to be true (since Markus!)

- at 3 months, he's definitely not a new born anymore! He looks and feels and is much less fragile now
- I like pottering around at home, I like the routine and rhythm of changing nappies, feeding, burping. I feel satisfaction in having a clean kitchen, laundry done, clean bedding, folded baby clothes
- I like the fact that I have challenged my expectations of being a mum and being on maternity leave - I love being at home and looking after baby M
- You can get a lot done in an hour, whilst baby sleeps (especially if you prioritize like mad!)
- It's amazing how much time you can spend just gazing at baby sleeping
- The laundry monster is never satisified!
- I thought I would be desperate to get back to work (but I'm not!)
- Mr.ncot can sing :-)

I talked to my good friend Jill yesterday, and was moaning about the fact that I don't have time to get certain things done now, or at least not done in the way I did things before. She gently reminded me of what I have achieved the last 3 months, gettting out and meeting people, keeping up contact at work, having visitors, getting to know Markus. It was a good reminder!